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How To Pull Someone Towards You

If you've understand the dynamics of balance of how relationships work, then you will know that in order to get somone away from you who do not desire to be with you, you press towards them.

When you press towards someone who no longer wants to be in a relationship, there is a stifling of free will that would cause a relationship to naturally blossom.

However, if you want to pull someone towards you, you press away from them. Moving away is what creates enough friction and free will to fling the person in your direction.

But this does not mean this will always happen. It is the best strategy however, much more full of integrity than crying, whining, manipulation or blatant disrespect.

Using the concept that humans want what humans can't have, you will see that when something is valued, it is hard to come by.

If you want to create value, you need to move away from your Ex or drifting partner until he/she willingly desire to have a relationship with you.

This moving away also creates a number of opportunities for you, in that, it may and more than likely will cause you to grow into a deeper self, what I call reinvention.

The person of who you are while involved in your relationship was not able to draw or sustain a connection so in order to form a new connection, you need to become a better "YOU."

But be careful that this is not done to make someone love you but pursuing true self love which is the only healthy foundation to build a relationship on.

Start by growing into a deeper and more whole individual by choosing to let go of trying to change someone or make them want you. Do whatever it takes to achieve true personal and spiritual growth by evaluating who you are now and what you need to do to change into a new "YOU."

First stop, go to your local library or bookstore and pick up a book on personal growth. Read it and apply it to your life and begin to grow into a strong person who can form and create true lasting relationships.

Nicole Gayle is the author of the e-book, What to Do When Your Partner Wants Out - written to help you make your breakup work for you. Get it now at

Did Your Man Leave Your For Ugly?

There's the Good, Bad and Ugly in the world of Hollywood movies but when it comes to relationships, you have the good, very bad, and dreadfully ugly.

If you're the good woman, then let me ask you a question. Did you suffer a horrific type of betrayal that you didn't see coming? - the kind that hit you like a tornado and has left you to feel like road kill?

Are you wondering if you'll ever be happy again and trying to get your man back in order to make him want to have a relationship with you again?

If you were cheated on then dumped, you may be experiencing shock, depression, loss of appetite, and desperately want to reconnect with your almost Ex. You probably can't see your way out.

But here's the hardest pill to shallow. Did your man leave you for an "Ugly" - meaning a low class call girl type who doesn't have a life, drive, ambition also used to being a friend with benefits that by the time your man got to her he was her number 200?

If so, why are you trying to get your man to come back to you after he's left you for "Ugly?"
He's already shown you that he prefers to be with an "Ugly" and that he had to go down low in order to push himself up. He's telling you that he doesn't deserve you and he would rather be with someone who he can feel powerful with.

When some men leave good women, they have to go down "low" in order to appease their guilt of abandonment because the low will be the doormat that he can do anything and get away with.

This sort of person will make him feel like a god because she doesn't even respects herself to think about the feelings of others. All she wants is him and all he needs is her.

Stop trying to chase after your man to try to convince him to have the emotional intelligence to cherish a beautiful person like yourself and let him and the "Ugly" stay together because they deserve each other.

Learned how I rose up from being shattered by the act of betrayal to an "Ugly" and became happier, more attractive and secure.

Nicole Gayle is the author of the e-book, What to Do When Your Partner Wants Out, - a guide to help you make your breakup work for you. Learn the secrets to becoming more attractive, happier, and secure. Go to for an instant download now.

When the Dust Settles After a Breakup

Breaking up is hard to do and it's not just a cliché. It's gut wrenching, depressing, and emotionally draining. If you add the financial ramifications of a split, we're talking about a never to be forgotten life changing experience.

I've been there and that's why I want to help you.

It's difficult to see your way when the wind is blowing the dust all around you. It's like being in a sandstorm except it is your very real life, your feelings, your family and your future.

So this is why it is critical to make decisions, not based on your present circumstances, but based on facts. You may have heard it before, read about it, searched online looking for answers about what to do.

The reality is that you need to contain your inner world in order for you not to have a complete meltdown. How good you become in containing your inner world will tell you how you will fair in the face of a breakup. If you do not do what it takes to get grounded on the inside, you will continue to live in turmoil.

When the dust settles, you want to come out ahead, meaning happier, healthier and prosperous.
Even though my breakup was the most shocking and devastating experience of my life, I can say that I am happier because now that the dust has settled, I've fallen in love with me.

I followed some key strategies that worked. Want to know how I did it, check out my website and e-book below.

I value your feedback, if you have a comments or suggestions, post it here or send an email to

Nicole Gayle is the author of the e-book, What to Do When Your Partner Wants Out, - a guide to help you make your breakup work for you. Learn the secrets to becoming more attractive, happier, and secure. Go to for an instant download now.

Are You Fighting For Your Man?

If your man has left you or wants to leave, you’re more than likely feeling utterly devastated. You wanted your relationship to last and may be looking for a number of ways to get him back.

But before you continue trying to get someone to love you, I want to help you understand male psychology.

I am not a man, but I have been through a shocking and devastating breakup that left me feeling like road kill and there are secrets that you need to know about how men work in relationships and particularly when it comes to wanting out.

When you don’t understand these secrets, you will become like someone who a man wants to put a restraining order against.

I know you don’t think your man is like that, but first let me tell you although you were together and you thought of him as your boyfriend or husband, he’s first and foremost “male.”

And he’ll instinctly respond in certain ways when it comes to relationships. As a woman, you may have not taken the time to understand this on a much deeper level because you’ve been used to being around each other and have gotten used to the way he responds.

But in the world of male psychology, a woman should never fight for a man. It wont make sense to you as a woman because we are wired to nurture and care for others and we think that trying to convince a man equates to caring. This won’t work for you.

Have you seen how plenty of women once they get into a relationship try to change the man they are with? Well, men secretly fear this. They actually don’t want women to change them. In the world of male speak, female nagging will only cause male rebellion.

And this is why your man is pulling further and further away from you. When men feel unwanted pressure, they self-preserve in order to keep their power. This is why the need to get away from you is even stronger.

So trying to convince him to love you will do more harm than good. When he hears you, he’ll feel the need to bolt as this is a sign that you’re still trying to “change” him.

Nicole Gayle is the author of the e-book, What to Do When Your Partner Wants Out - written to help you make your breakup work for you. Get your confidence back now. Instant download at