Your Ex or soon to be feels done with you.
You don’t feel done so you want to keep your relationship in the undone phase. But there’s a reason why it’s come to where it is now.
Let me explain wiring. Wiring is a connection that you made with your partner when you decided to be in a relationship together.
When the relationship is broke, wires have a way of not being able to connect to each other. There’s a shortage somewhere.
Re-wiring is what needs to happen within you or what I like to call reinvention. See your signals will be crossed if you don’t reinvent yourself. Meaning, digging deep beyond the brokenness of your relationship to figure out why you are apart of something broken.
You cannot build a relationship until your internal signals are re-aligned so forget about trying to re-connect with your drifting partner or Ex based on your previous connection with him/her.
It won’t work. There’s an independent “you” and a relationship “you” – who you are on your own and what you’re like in a relationship.
You’ve got to figure out how to detach the relationship “you” from your present relationship in order to work on the independent “you”
Are you following me?
In my e-book I talk about reinvention. When this happens you have a whole new vibration and your signal may no longer point to your Ex or you may send the right signal to re-attract him/her back into a relationship with you.
A funny thing happens when you grow beyond begging, it’s called self respect. Your internal re-alignment begins with a decision to stand up for “you.”
Nicole Gayle is the author of the e-book, What to Do When Your Partner Wants Out, - learn how to be strong, beautiful, and make your breakup work for you. www.whenyourpartnerwantsout.com
Your Ex or soon to be feels done with you.
Are you wondering what you seem to be doing wrong when it comes to getting your Ex back? There has been a lot of talk about the law of attraction, but is it working for you?
Let me help you understand what went wrong inside the mind of the relationship with your Ex.
The first law that attracted you and your Ex together is the law of respect. I bet you don't think respect has anything to do with your attraction. You're probably thinking that you found your Ex physically attractive, interesting, and liked certain attributes about him/her and that's why you wanted to get to know him/her.
But the law of respect has everything to do with how your relationship began and how it ended. Think about it: You're attracted to certain types of people because there's something about them that you admire - certain physical attributes or a attitude that pull you towards them.
When your relationship began, you may have seen each other regularly, talked consistently, did things that caused you to build a deeper bond, etc. Essentially, you placed each other first and made meeting each other's needs your number one priority.
But as your relationship progressed, the initial excitement of your relationship tapered off and something chipped away at the foundation of respect. Now you find yourself trying to get your Ex to want you when this choice was made freely when your relationship began.
And if you continue to manipulate the flow of attraction between you, you will continue to lose the respect of your Ex.
Hanging on, begging, chasing, promising to change, neediness, being clingy and insecure is fatal. These types of behaviors will cause your Ex to disrespect you. Remember in order for attraction to happen, there has to be respect.
And having respect for yourself is where it's at. If your Ex knows that you'd do anything to have him/her or that you desperately want your relationship back, there will not be enough respect to build attraction and trying to mentally draw your Ex in won't work because you don't have respect for yourself first.
You pull towards you what you already have inside. If you don't love yourself enough to leave your Ex alone, then no one will love you enough to want to be with you.
Nicole Gayle is the author of the e-book, What to Do When Your Partner Wants Out, - a guide to help you make your breakup work for you. Learn the secrets to becoming more attractive, happier, and secure. Go to http://www.whenyourpartnerwantsout.com for an instant download now.
There's something called dumpee's self pity. It causes lack of common sense and makes people act out of desperation.
If you've been dumped and you are feeling like no one will ever want you again, you'll do anything to get your boyfriend back.
And that's why your cycle of self pity is pushing you further and further in the hole. You are causing your boyfriend to mistreat you by not having enough guts to stand up for yourself.
When you continue to beg your boyfriend to want you or act like your life hangs on his every word, you'll bring out the worse in him.
First, he'll act like you were rolling around with the pigs and look on you with repulsion.
Then, the worse will come out of him because he's responding to your worst "self" - the beggar in the hole. He's just mirroring back what he sees.
Next, he may take what he can get or just plain run away, even further from you.
And finally, the worst, he'll permanently put up a sign that says, "All crazy Ex girlfriends are prohibitted."
Chasing your boyfriend isn't working for you and it won't work for you because you're acting in an unattractive, undesirable way.
If you become the kind of woman who'll have enough confidence to stand on your own, then you might have a chance of getting him back.
But why should you have to be the one who has to do all the work to have someone want you? That must be kind of tiring?
Why not create the sort of confidence that will cause a real man to sweep you off your feet?
Nicole Gayle is the Author of the e-book, What to Do When Your Partner Wants Out, - a guide to help you make your breakup work for you. Learn the secrets to becoming more attractive, happier, and secure. Go to http://www.whenyourpartnerwantsout.com/ for an instant download now