I've written over 50 articles on how to deal with a breakup and by far the number 1 mistake people often make is moving towards someone who wants to move away from them.
The emotional pull can be intoxicating. If you're here, you will have to bear down under the weight of your emotions which can cause you to make some fatal mistakes.
Pay the price to move away by doing whatever it takes to convert your energy into something else. This is called channeling.
Push your emotions into something other than working on trying to fix your relationship when the person you love wants to go.
Go with the flow and let them go.
This may not be what you want to hear. But do you know what happens when people fight? When we fight against something, it gives it more negative energy and putting negative energy into fixing your relationship is not the way to go.
Instead, put your pain into something that can cause you to be transformed into a brand new person and you will gain the sort of self respect that will cause you to reinvent your persona and become the person you're meant to be because of your pending breakup.
This always works.
Nicole Gayle is the author of the e-book, What to Do When Your Partner Wants Out, written to help you make your breakup work for you. Get it now at www.whenyourpartnerwantsout.com
Dealing With A Breakup
How To Pull Someone Towards You
If you've understand the dynamics of balance of how relationships work, then you will know that in order to get somone away from you who do not desire to be with you, you press towards them.
When you press towards someone who no longer wants to be in a relationship, there is a stifling of free will that would cause a relationship to naturally blossom.
However, if you want to pull someone towards you, you press away from them. Moving away is what creates enough friction and free will to fling the person in your direction.
But this does not mean this will always happen. It is the best strategy however, much more full of integrity than crying, whining, manipulation or blatant disrespect.
Using the concept that humans want what humans can't have, you will see that when something is valued, it is hard to come by.
If you want to create value, you need to move away from your Ex or drifting partner until he/she willingly desire to have a relationship with you.
This moving away also creates a number of opportunities for you, in that, it may and more than likely will cause you to grow into a deeper self, what I call reinvention.
The person of who you are while involved in your relationship was not able to draw or sustain a connection so in order to form a new connection, you need to become a better "YOU."
But be careful that this is not done to make someone love you but pursuing true self love which is the only healthy foundation to build a relationship on.
Start by growing into a deeper and more whole individual by choosing to let go of trying to change someone or make them want you. Do whatever it takes to achieve true personal and spiritual growth by evaluating who you are now and what you need to do to change into a new "YOU."
First stop, go to your local library or bookstore and pick up a book on personal growth. Read it and apply it to your life and begin to grow into a strong person who can form and create true lasting relationships.
Nicole Gayle is the author of the e-book, What to Do When Your Partner Wants Out - written to help you make your breakup work for you. Get it now at www.whenyourpartnerwantsout.com
Did Your Man Leave Your For Ugly?
There's the Good, Bad and Ugly in the world of Hollywood movies but when it comes to relationships, you have the good, very bad, and dreadfully ugly.
If you're the good woman, then let me ask you a question. Did you suffer a horrific type of betrayal that you didn't see coming? - the kind that hit you like a tornado and has left you to feel like road kill?
Are you wondering if you'll ever be happy again and trying to get your man back in order to make him want to have a relationship with you again?
If you were cheated on then dumped, you may be experiencing shock, depression, loss of appetite, and desperately want to reconnect with your almost Ex. You probably can't see your way out.
But here's the hardest pill to shallow. Did your man leave you for an "Ugly" - meaning a low class call girl type who doesn't have a life, drive, ambition also used to being a friend with benefits that by the time your man got to her he was her number 200?
If so, why are you trying to get your man to come back to you after he's left you for "Ugly?"
He's already shown you that he prefers to be with an "Ugly" and that he had to go down low in order to push himself up. He's telling you that he doesn't deserve you and he would rather be with someone who he can feel powerful with.
When some men leave good women, they have to go down "low" in order to appease their guilt of abandonment because the low will be the doormat that he can do anything and get away with.
This sort of person will make him feel like a god because she doesn't even respects herself to think about the feelings of others. All she wants is him and all he needs is her.
Stop trying to chase after your man to try to convince him to have the emotional intelligence to cherish a beautiful person like yourself and let him and the "Ugly" stay together because they deserve each other.
Learned how I rose up from being shattered by the act of betrayal to an "Ugly" and became happier, more attractive and secure.
Nicole Gayle is the author of the e-book, What to Do When Your Partner Wants Out, - a guide to help you make your breakup work for you. Learn the secrets to becoming more attractive, happier, and secure. Go to http://www.whenyourpartnerwantsout.com for an instant download now.
