Facing a breakup? How To Know When It's Really Over

When a relationship breaks up, there's a way to tell if it's really over. The person who leaves is the one who determines the fate of the relationship. What you need to understand as the person who was dumped is that you have more power than you think. Rejection is never easy but it is what you do with it that will make all of the difference in the world.

Walker #1

If your partner walked out on you because he/she's had enough of putting up with some very specific behaviors that have been talked about over and over again, this person truly loves you but have come to the end of their rope and is only trying to get you to wake up to see that something needs to change. This kind of walker does not want to throw the whole relationship away but is creating a crisis in order for things to change. If you are willing to get the message, then this person is still willing to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work.

Walker #2

But if your partner walks away, unwilling to make things work, does not want to go to counselling, take classes, read books on strengthening your relationship, then this person is DONE and has a plaque with "It's over!" on the wall in their mind.

This is the kind of walker who already has plans about starting a new life with someone else or already has. This person has had their exit strategy for a long time, felt trapped, no longer loves you, is prepared to shut down everything that you do to try to save the relationship, and gave up on you a long time ago. There's no "US" in this person's mind because he/she has already checked out.

As the songs goes, "You've got to know when to hold em and when to fold em." If you're dealing with walker #2, the most extreme action you can take is to cut them off and move on with your life - NOW.

This is not easy but will help you create the level of respect that may cause your partner to seriously regret ever leaving you.

Nicole Gayle is the Author of the e-book, "What to Do When Your Partner Wants Out," - for people who want to learn the secrets to becoming more attractive, happier, and secure. If this describes you, get an instant download at http://www.whenyourpartnerwantsout.com/