How To Shock Your EX

There’s nothing sweeter than earning a certain level of success then having your EX hear how well you are doing. Especially if you were the one who was dumped. It just rocks!

When you were together, family and friends knew you as a couple. Whatever you achieved together, you both got credit for. But now you have a whole new identity – you.

I nag quit a bit in my articles. One of my pet peeve is knowing that people are doing desperate acts to try and get someone to love them. A breakup can be so devastating that it can cause you to act like a disgraceful beggar. But when you are able to get some common sense, you will understand that you were not born to beg.

The way to transform yourself is to focus on rebuilding your damaged self esteem. Getting dumped does a lot of damage to one’s self-confidence. When you fall in love with yourself, you will be a brand new person.

Come up with a plan on how you will do this. For me, it was signing up for all sorts of activities at my local parks and recreation department and pursuing personal growth. I took everything from salsa to co-ed sports and read tones of books. Every time I would leave my classes, I felt like I’m on fire.

Getting out may not be something that you feel like doing, but the alternate is to sit at home and waste away. Start by creating a lifestyle much different from the one you used to have. Set up healthy boundaries between you and your EX like not calling or trying to be friends. There’s no such thing as being friends with someone who dumps you.

Then follow your dreams. What are your passion and goals? Begin with an idea, thought, hobby and build from there.

Maybe you want to work harder at your job to get a promotion or you’ve always wanted to lose weight or own your own home. Anything is possible.

Do not ever let a breakup define you. You must be the master of your own life and the captain of your ship. If you want to learn how to rise from beggar to success, read my e-book, “What to Do When Your Partner Wants Out.” – written to help you soar!

Nicole Gayle is the author of the e-book, "What to Do When Your Partner Wants Out," written to help you become happier, secure and successful. Get instant download at www.whenyourpartnerwantsout.com