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The simplicity of fixing a failing relationship

If your relationship has been hit by a tornado where you have both grown apart, then there is a simple way to reignite the flame you once had for each other.

You must first understand these key principles:

1. You cannot change anyone.
2. No one is responsible for your happiness except you.
3. You are born to create, so you can manifest anything if you really have the desire for it.

Unless you have some very major issues like addiction or abuse in your relationship, you can take your life to the next level if you really want to.
The question is, "How bad do you really want it?" and "What are you willing to give up to get it?"

There are many who sit around wishfully hoping that some day their partners will get it and instantly give them what they have always wanted. This is a convenient way to live because it takes away the fact that in order to get anything in life that you really want, it has to start with you.

If you choose to settle for a mediocre relationship by constantly nagging and whining about what your partner may or may not be doing then you will live a powerless and helpless life completely at the mercies of how your partner choose to live his/her life.

But if you really understood that you are in the circumstances that you are presently in because you created it, then you it will be easier for you to recreate what it is that you really want.
Many people will get out of a relationship because they don’t want to really face themselves. They think their partners have failed them or is not properly meeting their needs. They choose to fix the situation by moving on with hopes of finding something that they believe will work.

And what a complete shock it is to find out that even after moving on from the relationship that they believe was not working for them, that they are still hurting and unhappy.
Because the problems that were present in the context of their relationships were within them. It is often not what’s on the outside but what is from within.

If you are shifting the blame to your partner, you are making a huge mistake. You need to change. You need to have a true awakening. You need to rise to a new level.
When you do, you will literally be like a magnet and lift everything around you to the level that you are. Your partner is only responding to who you truly are inside. If you were to change your script, you will get a different response.

And you may not see the results that you are looking for right away. It may take time. But it is difficult for people to remain unchanged in an environment that has. Here are some tips to help you with change:

1. Write out your life purpose and mission.
2. Set 5 goals that you would like to accomplish. Your number one goal should be personal growth and development. Start immediately to work on this.
3. You cannot be successful without persistence. It takes persistence to win.
4. If you want the reward, you must pay the price.
5. Focus on the big picture. What is it that you love about your partner? What are your family values and are you living them?
6. Begin by giving what you want. You must sow in order to reap.

Move away from trying to change your partner. Change yourself and you will be able to effect lasting change.

Nicole Gayle is the author of the ebook, "What To Do When Your Partner Wants Out," written after the breakup of her marriage of 8 years. Her ebook helps you to find emotional freedom if you are dealing with a breakup. Visit and subscribe to blog,

1 comment:

auntiegwen said...

Thank you for writing this. It has helped clarify my feelings