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It's Time to Take a Stand

I was recently a part of a huge audience and heard a speech from a man who was absolutely inspiring. At the end of the speech, he said bluntly, "For once in your life, stand for something."

I thought, "Wow, what a challenge!"

Maybe you’re busy placing all of your energy on nursing your broken heart. No doubt you need time to heal and adjust. But sooner or later you’ve got to get to the place where you take a stand.

And taking a stand does not mean trying to get back with your ex. Forget about "save your relationship" tactics that people try to sell you in books or online. A lot of folks know that you are vulnerable and will try to take advantage of you having a broken heart. You cannot save a relationship when someone chooses to leave it, you can only create a new one. Saving a relationship from pain will only cause more pain. Fix the hole in your soul first.

If you are drowning in self pity asking, "why me?" over and over, looking at pictures of your ex, playing the songs you used to listen to together, talking about him/her to your friends, wondering what you can say or do to get him/her back, it’s time to stop!

It’s time to stand up for yourself. Out with the old and in with the new - the new you, that is. Be a leader, have courage, take control and get a new lease on life.

Your emotions don’t want to hear this and if you are in love with your "self pity" then you may be thinking that I should just shut up.

But this sort of thinking is pathetic. Because you are basically giving up on yourself when you choose to remain at the mercies of your ex.

And I don’t want you to give up on yourself, so I’m being blunt with you. Get your butt off of that couch, get out of the hole, throw away the kleenex, ice cream, rebound relationship, anything that resembles the life you used to have and take a stand!

It’s your time.

Nicole Gayle is the author of the ebook, "What to Do When Your Partner Wants Out," written to help you find emotional freedom in the midst of your breakup. Visit for more strategies and read samples from the book.

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