The Seed of an equivalent or greater benefit.

If you've ever watched The Secret, you may remember this statement, "Every adversity, every failure and every heartache carries with it the Seed of an equivalent or a greater Benefit."

How is that possible? How can your crisis have a greater benefit?

A seed when it is planted in the ground, actually dies before it comes back to life - it has to go though a process in order to transform into something of an even greater value. When you begin to see beyond your pain, you will realize that your relationship breakup may have taken place to serve you.

When I was wallowing in the mud, I didn't want to hear anyone tell me that it will work for my benefit. I didn't want to be the seed that has to be transformed into something greater. I actually resented hearing it because I was not ready to grow.

When you are ready to break through the earth, everything that you need will come to your attention - the one you love may have left you or wanting to leave, but you are given the tools to seize the opportunity to discover the "greater benefit."

Your breakup could just be the wakeup to your rebirth.

Nicole Gayle is the author of the ebook, "What to Do When Your Partner Wants Out," written to help you find emotional freedom in the midst of your relationship breakup. Visit http://www.whenyourpartnerwantsout.com/ for more strategies and to read samples from her book.